I’ve recently got back in touch with the woman I dated when I was in college and she seems interested again. She is the only girl I ever really loved, but I am not sure I even want to get into a relationship with her again. I was really messed up when she left me before. I would love to have sex with her again, but I don’t know if she would be interested in just sex and no relationship with me. If we did have a relationship what do you think of the chances of it working out a second time? It’s been 13 years.
~I Want Her, But I Don’t
Dear I Want Her I worked on myself and got back my ex-fiancé after 7 years apart… I had changed, but our dynamic was still the same. I am a firm believer that unless what broke you up the first time has been completely eliminated you will break up again. For example, if a person who was an addict gets sober, then they may have a chance of building a lost relationship, but the odds are against it, even in the best of circumstances. It really depends on what caused the break up in the first place. Sorry this could not be more encouraging. The bottom line is once the source of your break up is eliminated; you still need to address each others’ emotional needs. My material can teach you both how to do that, but your past relationship is a hindrance to making a future relationship with her work. Now, as far as sex goes, it is easier to get an ex to agree to get a sexual friendship going. What you must be ready to factor in though is that after 13 years both your bodies will have changed in terms of what you liked and that you will not be able to take anything for granted. Which could be a good thing or a bad one. Treat her as if she were a brand new lover and take the time to learn everything you can about her body to make this work. ~Frank, because I have to be Writer for SandiOnSwinging.com, you can also visit him at www.franktalks.com where he talks more about having an open relationship including having a Threesome.