Every time we have Sex my partner wants to stick it up my butt, and I am just not sure I want to have Anal Sex. What should I do?
And your problem is? OK, just joking, but I know some people that just love anal and would rather have anal sex that way than any other. Now I have to assume here that you are a male / female couple and you are the female asking the question (although it is more than possible that you are the guy and you want your lady to use a strap-on on you, but that is a whole other topic for another day, and I will have to put that on my list of articles to write).
Anal sex, as I said before, some love it, some hate it, some tolerate it. You obviously fit into the have not tried and not really interested category. You need to communicate this to your partner. If you are really not interested, and have no desire whatsoever to even try, then tell him you’re NOT interested and to give it a rest.
If he does not give up, tell him, OK, you’re willing to give it a try, BUT you want to use the biggest dildo that you have (or if you do not have one then you want to buy one) and use it on HIM first, with no lube! That should shut him up. Just be careful though. He just might call your bluff. 😉
All joking aside, there are couples that would like to experiment with anal sex and/or anal play and if you are one of them, I would suggest you start off slowly, and use lots of high quality lube (like Wet Platinum). Start out on a small scale, maybe just a little finger play until you are comfortable back there and work your way up to the real thing. Do not expect it to be enjoyable right away, but you never know. Keep an open mind and just relax (if you are tensed up it will hurt, trust me). And guys, just like everything else in life, the more you ask, generally the less you get. Give it a rest. Women have incredible memories, if the mood moves her one time, she just might surprise you. Anal Sex needs to approached with a different mindset than regular sex, so give her some time to get used to the ides.
Which leads me into this quick joke I could just not resist…
A man escapes from prison where he has been for 15 years.
He breaks into a house to look for money and guns and finds a young couple in bed.
He orders the guy out of bed and ties him to a chair, while tying the girl to the bed he gets on top of her, kisses her neck, then gets up and goes into the bathroom.
While he’s in there, the husband tells his wife: “Listen, this guy’s an escaped convict, look at his clothes! He probably spent lots of time in jail and hasn’t seen a woman in years. I saw how he kissed your neck.” If he wants sex, don’t resist, don’t complain, do whatever he tells you. Satisfy him no matter how much he nauseates you. This guy is probably very dangerous. If he gets angry, he’ll kill us. Be strong, honey. I love you.”
To which his wife responds: “He wasn’t kissing my neck. He was whispering in my ear. He told me he was gay, thought you were cute, and asked me if we had any Vaseline. I told him it was in the bathroom. Be strong honey. I love you too!!”
Remember, start slow, relax, and you may just enjoy Anal Sex more than you thought you would.