I hate to say it, but most Swing Clubs do not let single guys attend their parties because most singles guys don’t know how to behave in a swinging situation. Notice I said most, there are lots of guys that have been incredibly successful in the swinging Lifestyle. And they all have one thing in common, they are gentleman, and they know how to make a lady feel special, and that is what it is all about.
In case you have not noticed, the girls make the rules and there is no way in this world around it, especially when going to swing clubs. If you are trying to meet couples and ladies in “The Lifestyle” you need to learn how to market yourself. Sending out a first contact that says “hey babe, you gots a great bod and I got 10 hard inches, but if you call and my mom answers hang up” it pretty much guarantees NOT to get you laid.
Marketing Yourself In Swing Clubs
It’s all about marketing YOURSELF. You need to show off your best side. You may be the greatest guy in the world, but if you can’t spell, live at home and haven’t showered in a week you are going to be pretty much out of luck. I went to a couples and singles night at one of the local Swing Clubs a few years back and it was very interesting to observe what some guys idea of “Dress To Impress” (which was the theme for the night) was. There were guys there in jeans and a muscle shirt. One guy showed up in shorts and it was the middle of winter. There were guys that looked like they had not shaved in a month (and who knows if they showered), and they were the first to complain what a rip off the party was.
The one guy that got the most action must have been at least 65, he showed up in a 3 piece suit, treated all the ladies with respect and at the end of the evening had offers from 3 ladies and two couples and wanted to make sure he was on the mailing list so he did not miss the next party. I watched him leave with an incredible looking 30 something blonde and they both had big smiles on their faces.
So if you want to be successful as a single guy involved with Swingers, including at Swing Clubs, just remember to “market yourself properly”.