So your husband doesn’t want to have sex with you anymore, well you’ve stumbled upon the right article to help you fix things.
Any woman whose husband doesn’t want to have sex with her (or just doesn’t want it often enough) feels confused, frustrated, hurt, and scared that her marriage is falling apart. And indeed, once we are rejected by our husband we cannot help but think a series of pretty awful thoughts:
- What is wrong with me?
- Is he having an affair with someone else?
- Doesn’t he love me anymore?
- Doesn’t he find me attractive or sexy anymore?
- Is he going to leave me?
I understand where these thoughts are coming from and how desperately you’re looking for a solution to this problem. What can you do to change your situation and make your husband to want to have sex with you more often?
The first thing you need to understand is that your marriage doesn’t turn sexless out of the blue. Admit it, this didn’t just happen over night. The fact that your marriage now lacks sex is but a symptom of deeper relationship and personal issues between you and your husband. These issues, if left untended may indeed deepen and could very possible end in divorce.
I know this may be scary, and believe me, there’s nothing I want less than to scare you into doing nothing, because you can and should do what it takes to get your relationship back on track. Trust me it won’t be that hard to do, and I will help you through it all.
One of the most common things which may have led your husband to not want to have sex with you is the possibility that you’ve fallen into an unhealthy routine. Men love diversity, they are built that way biologically. Of course, unless you are a “swinger”, he’s not going to get a variety in sexual partners as long as he’s married to you, but that doesn’t mean that your sex life and romantic life should be routine. You need to spice things up a bit.
Try to make your romantic life and sex life a bit more interesting and diverse. Don’t worry, you won’t need to do “porn star” style things. There’s a lot of things you can do to spice things up between the sheets that will not only stimulate your husband again, but will also give you the added bonus of making sex more pleasurable for you as well. Try a new position or two, have sex by candle light, have sex somewhere other than in the bed, put on some new music (and maybe strip for him), remember men are visual animals and will respond to visual stimuli. Basically have fun exploring things like you did when you first started out.
Adding some variety to your sex life will go a long way toward getting your husband to want to have sex with you again, and will also restore the happiness to your relationship.
Read more about how to fix a sexless marriage.