Their Threesome with another man made him feel rather small!
Dear Frank,
My girlfriend and I had a MFM threesome. The guy we were with was huge down there. Well, everything was going fine until he went inside her. She reacted like I have never seen her. It was like she was totally into it, saying things like, “God I feel so FULL!”. I am of average size, and I know she has been with bigger guys, but it never bothered me until I actually saw how much she enjoyed herself. I feel like all those times we were together, she didn’t really like it. I know she loves me, but this wasn’t what I thought it would be. I quietly left the room and they continued doing it. I don’t think she really noticed until he finished, and then she came looking for me. I was in other room crying, and the guy left while she was trying to comfort me. I feel like such a loser. This was like 4 months ago, and things haven’t been the same. We have had sex, and she says I satisfy her and make her cum and everything, but I can’t shake that image of her that day. Should I break up with her and let her find someone bigger down there?
Hung, but Not Well Enough
Dear Hung,
No, there is no reason to break up with her, unless you already want to break it off with her and are just using this as an excuse. Look, if you are going to engage in this lifestyle you have to know that no matter how attractive, skilled, big, sexually gifted, etc. you are, there will always be someone that you will meet who will be more attractive, skilled, big, sexually gifted and so on. Part of being in this lifestyle is for both you and your partner to get to experience all of the variety without threatening your primary relationship. We all have doubts about ourselves, and doubts will kill even the best of relationships. The doubts don’t even have to be sexual in nature to do that. Have you considered she might have the same insecurities if and when you try having a FMF threesome? Don’t you think she might have some of the same concerns about breast size, age, flexibility, being tighter down there, etc. If you continue to play in the lifestyle, these issues are going to come up. It is going to happen. Part of what makes the lifestyle work for some couples is the desire to see their partners enjoying themselves in new ways.? You need to find a way to be secure with her love for you, and if that is not enough to see you through, perhaps this lifestyle is not for you. My work can help you find more confidence in knowing if you address her emotional needs, which is where the real strength and core of relationships happen.
~Frank, because I have to be
Writer for SandiOnSwinging.com, you can also visit him at www.franktalks.com where he talks more about having an open relationship including having a Threesome.