Off the bat I just want to let you in on a secret, there are not as many cliques at a swingers club as you may think, just people who have not seen each other in a long time. It’s just that from the outside of the group looking in, especially if you are new there, it does look like a clique.
Just think about what happens when you go to a regular party or other form of gathering and you see some people you have not seen in a long time, what do you do? That’s right you spend time with them in deep conversation trying to get caught up with what had been been happening. That is exactly what is going on here. It is not that they don’t want to talk to anyone else they are just caught up in their conversation.
There are a few things you can do to get invited into any of these groups at a Swingers Club
1. Hang out at the bar
This is the best spot to meet people in any situation, swinging or otherwise. Why? Because everyone ends up at the bar getting a drink sooner or later, this is not unique to a swingers club. When they do, that is your chance, say something exciting to them like… “Hi”. That’s right the simplest of greetings gets you more places than you could imagine. It only takes the smallest effort to peaks someones interest. But on the same token, don’t be put off if they don’t react in a nice way to your greeting as some people are just rude (that goes with life in general). What do you have to lose except one word.
2. Ask someone in the group to dance
Assuming there is music at this swingers club (otherwise you will just sound silly asking them), ask someone from the group to dance. Don’t pick the one in the middle of a big discussion though, you don’t want to interrupt and appear rude yourself. If they say yes, you are on your way, carry on a little conversation during the dance, ask about them and be interested in their answers and they will be happy to introduce you to others in their group. If they don’t want to dance don’t take it personally, not everyone in interested in everyone. And not everyone dances.
3. Ask to join in
I know this is a big one, and will take some courage on your part, but grab your partner’s hand and walk up to the group. Now you can either hang around just outside of the group and hope that someone invites you in, or be brave and say something exciting like, you guessed it, “Hi”. Maybe add “We’re new here and you guys look like you are having fun, can we join in?”. Chances are they will say yes, and then you are good as gold.
So you see there is no magic involved in joining in on any so called clique at a swingers club or event, you just have to be friendly and make the first move. Basically if you hide out in the corner alone you will most likely still be in the corner alone at the end of the night. And what is so great about that? Now what do you say, let’s go out to a swingers club and meet some people.