If you have been thinking about giving swinging a try, then there are a few things I feel you need to know first. Let me go through some of them with you before you get yourself into a situation where you are not comfortable.
Some of the things you need to know as a new swinger seem obvious to those who have been swinging for a long time, but I do still remember when I got started. That is why I would like to help you out by giving you some tips to make you a more relaxed swinger.
Just keep in mind that although swinging can be a extremely exciting and wonderful experience, it also has the capability to ruin your relationship. I am sure you want to make sure it is wonderful. So let us get started.
I am sure you have already heard that you need to talk to your partner before you even meet a swinger to discuss what you are both comfortable doing. You need to discuss kissing, oral sex, if you are going to be more into soft swinging (no intercourse with the other couple), or if you are going to go all the way with the other partners. Make sure you are both on the same page before you even reply to any swinger ads.
Pretty much every swinging couple out there, or at least the happy successful ones, have a set of guidelines they follow with every swing partner they meet.
Keep in mind that these guidelines are meant to be fluid, and may change in time as you and your partner become more comfortable as swingers. Just make sure you discuss any changes you would like before you go ahead and do something that will get you in so much trouble. The saying that it is better to ask forgiveness than permission just does not cut it as swingers.
As I said other swingers also have these guidelines so be sure to ask what they are comfortable doing as well as tell them yours before things go to the bedroom, so as to not cause any problems.
This is the first step in becoming a successful swinger, and you are now off to a good start in your journey. Now relax and have fun, or better yet read up some more so you can be comfortable in your decision to become a swinger.
