Their Threesome is turning into More of a Triad relationship
Dear Frank,
I gave my boyfriend a threesome with my best friend on three occasions. On all three occasions, my boyfriend paid more attention to her than to me. He touched her first, and did more things with her than with me. Now whenever when all of our friends get together, my boyfriend and my best friend always try to arrange it so that the three of us leave together so that we can all go home together. This is not what I wanted. When we get together without other friends, I just was us to be a couple, and leave as a couple. Now I dread getting together with everyone because my best friend always wants to try to turn it into another threesome when we go home. I keep asking my boyfriend if he likes my friend more than me. He says that he loves me, but that he likes having a threesome with her. I have to go out of town for a week to visit family next month, and I am scared that they are going to get together when I am not around. They both have promised not to do that, but I am really worried. They really like each other. What should I do?
-Threesome Worrier
Dear Threesome,
This is why it is best not to have threesomes with people that are so closely linked to your regular social lives. Things like this never tend to stay in a vacuum. You don’t mention if you are living with your boyfriend or not, but my guess is that if you are not, it is possible that your boyfriend and your best friend have already hooked up without you. I think you need to brace yourself for the fact that they will likely hook up when you are gone. Assuming they do, are you prepared to break up with him? Have you considered making your relationship with him more open? You and your boyfriend really need to talk about boundaries. Obviously he likes the new sexual dynamic to your relationship and I doubt he will be willing to end that with you now. What are your feelings to your best friend? Are you interested in a triad relationship, with the additional benefits that come with one? Communicate your boundaries and the consequences of those boundaries not being met. Then stick to them no matter what happens. In the short run, this will be uncomfortable, but in the long run, you will be happy you did.
~Frank, because I have to be
Writer for SandiOnSwinging.com, you can also visit him at www.franktalks.com where he talks more about having an open relationship including having a Threesome.